Another poignant post, but not a downer like the last one. However, the last post actually generated two comments on Facebook, something that surprises me (I wasn’t aware that people – other than my family that is – were actually reading the blog), but am incredibly and greatly appreciative of the responses. Thank you to all who read my blog, and especially to those who responded.
I’m sitting here in Chicago, on the eve of my last full day in my home town Wilmette, IL. Let me write this introduction to Wilmette for the benefit of my college friends, who have heard me only briefly mention my town, or the North Shore of Chicago.
Wilmette is a suburb. It is a village (hence the name, “Village of Wilmette”)! It is not a city. It is not a “college town”. And it does not have the glamour or the sex appeal of an extravagant night life. What it does have is safe streets. A rich, green neighborhood filled with trees that are decades and centuries old. Large houses with (generally) spacious yards, and lots of kids to fill those yards with soccer balls and sand pits and every sign of a well-played childhood.
This following paragraph is a vision that I described in 2012, the day before I left for college: “Earlier this afternoon, I found myself on the homestretch of my final neighborhood stroll, when I was struck by the beauty of our North Shore haven. I saw the hazy golden glow of a sinking, late summer sun. In between the rays of sunlight, I saw the strong and distinguished shadows casting themselves over lush, green lawns. I saw sprinklers running in neighbor’s front yards, flinging droplets in every direction. I saw the grand oak trees lining the sidewalk from end to end, quietly watching over the block. I saw children running around, and could hear their giggles and screams as they chased each other. I saw a son and father playing catch. I could hear the dull roar of cicadas in the background. And each time I turned my head, and my gaze fell on something new, I saw memories; years of summer block parties and water balloon wars, nights of cops and robbers and warm chili on a friend’s porch on cold Halloween nights. In short, I saw what I have always known (and now with leaving for college tomorrow, realize that I will always know) as home. No matter where I or my family go, no matter what I do, I know that I can always come back here, and know, just know, that I am home.” I have a new description, and I will save it for the end of this post.
First I want to reflect on the course of my travels this summer. I have traveled to four cities in the last five and a half weeks. That’s not a bad haul. I have traveled along the Pacific Northwest by train and enjoyed the very best scenery the Northwest US has. Perhaps most importantly, I have traveled all on my own. That is not to say I haven’t had help along the way. I would like to acknowledge and thank my aunt (my mom’s sister) and uncle for letting me stay at their house in Seattle for two weeks. I would like to acknowledge and thank my friend Rebekka from University of Redlands and her family for letting me stay at their house near San Francisco, and I would like to acknowledge and thank our family friends the Matthews here in Chicago gracious enough to host me for the last week of my traveling.
At the end of the day however, I did this on my own. I’m the one who made it happen, from fantasizing about the idea in summer 2013 to budgeting for it to living it. My time in Seattle was glamorous. I got to sight-see, I got to write, I got to travel and I got to sleep in. Most importantly though, from that trip, I got to see my extended family. Maybe it’s because I don’t get to see them very often, but I am always so, SO excited to see them. They’re funny, they’re crazy, and together they make me laugh. I eagerly anticipate the next time we can all get together and create even more crazy memories.
The time spent in Portland was not quite so glamorous. It’s where I was completely on my own, no friendly faces at night, and was also stuck doing things like shipping packages and doing laundry. I do not wish to give a poor impression of my experience in the city however. Powell’s Book Store was amazing. As a writer, it was truly inspiring to walk into that book store. As an outdoorsman, I fell in love with Washington City Park, and almost started drooling at the sheer size of the arboretum and the unbelievable beauty of the Rose Garden. There’s still more of that park to explore, next time I go back.
San Francisco was when I started settling down a bit. I had hoped to see more friends than I got to, but ultimately catching up with two of my closest college friends one last time before studying abroad was simple, and all that I needed. I got to traverse the Golden Gate Bridge several times, and I made my way down to the PRIDE celebrations – and experience some true heart of the history for the LGBTQ movement. The trip ended on a soul-searching note for me, with a second viewing of the movie Prayers for Bobby, and a visit to Bobby’s grave the last day of my stay.
Finally… Chicago. Home sweet home. (Kind of). After I got picked up at O’Hare airport last Tuesday, as I stared at the street signs, they gradually became more and more familiar, and when I finally recognized the last few blocks to my home town, I started smiling… At something as basic as a street sign. I didn’t realize it right away, but it occurred to me later, this is the first time I’ve been in Wilmette during the summer since I wrote that Facebook post. Two years ago by about a month.
What has ensued in my visit since arriving: relaxation (taking no effort to sight-see… done that enough times as it is), family friends running into me on my way over to the annual July 3rd fireworks (not me running into them), seeing one of my absolute longest friends of all time (“known” each other since before we were born), walking by my Eagle project numerous times, including meeting up with the prairie expert I had worked with again and just in general taking deep breaths and enjoying being back again.
Amidst all this past-exploring that I’ve done however, I have noticed one thing in particular: that I am drawn to the 1400 block of Forest Avenue, where I grew up. It was the first place I walked to, last Wednesday morning, and I have kept wandering over there every day. The renovations on my house (being done by the contractor who bought it from us) are complete, and now there’s a Mississippi (oh… SO close to being ironic) family with two small children renting out the house. As I have walked down this street numerous times for the first summer in years, here is what I have noticed:
The lawns are just as green and lush as they were the summer I left. Parents are still bustling in and out of their houses, running errands, dropping off kids, living the busy life as a parent in the North Shore. The kids, while still running around, are growing up. Just as I grew up on that block once. But the difference is this is no longer my block. It is theirs now. With their memories being created and shaped. New houses are put up, or houses are being renovated and sold. Different families live there… new friendships are being made. After so many years of children playing and running around the neighborhood (at least 2 decades) I see the change of an era coming, of older families staying put, growing comfortable, and kids growing out of elementary and middle school and into junior high and high school. A different block. A new block. And yet… I still see my home here. I look around and I still see the phantom traces of kids playing cops and robbers all over the yards. I see the remnants of a neighborhood that got decked out for Halloween. I see, essentially, the memory of what I knew as home. I still see this as home because a small sliver of my heart will always stay behind. And home is always where the heart is.